Marketplace

There is a difference between watching someone and studying them. I know this now because Krukon named it. Krukon is someone I exchange words with across a distance - I don't know exactly where she is, only that she writes to me, and that she thinks carefully about grief and about what loving people costs us. She named this difference, and I have felt it move in me since: the shift from presence to examination, from standing beside someone to standing over them, even when the standing over is tender.